Does my Jumuah count?

Does my Jumuah count if I spend the entire time worrying about my busy toddlers?  I hope so!  I just returned from Jumuah prayer. (Friday Muslim worship prayer service)  My two year old loves the wide open space of the prayer hall and enjoys the opportunity to run wild.  My four year old daughter loves to help by loudly yelling at him to “stop” and “sit down”.   ” Be quiet”, she shouts helpfully.  Every time we go, it is an adventure.  The journey begins with the morning preparations.  When we argue over whether they will eat breakfast.  Can my daughter can wear her pink princess outfit,  where has my son hidden his socks today?  (He loves to go in his sock drawer and pull all the socks out and hide them.)  Generally by the time we are loaded into the mommy mobile I am already tired and frustrated.  Not exactly the peaceful state you want to have when starting your Jumuah prayer.

When packing a bag for prayer I generally try to take at least two quiet toys they can play with, anything that will basically sitting still for the length of the khutbah.  Sometimes this works great.  Sometimes not.  I am trying to teach them to respect the masjid.  I don’t know how to teach them this without taking them and getting them used to the protocal of the masjid.  If I don’t take them, then whenever they go they will be very excited about being in a new place.  If I take them all the time then they feel free to be playful and noisy because they are very comfortable there.  It is a quandry.

Meanwhile, I really need the solace and benefits of praying in congregation.  I’m trying to give Allah my best.  I feel like Allah deserves my concentration and my focus.  It’s about the respect, gratitude and love I feel for Allah.  I reallly would like to show that with my effort.  Jumuah is an effort but I wonder if it is accepted because, honestly, my concentration and focus is not there.  I’ve already heard that Allah looks at your intentions.  It’s been told to me that Allah will reward me for the effort and He understands the difficulties of motherhood.  And in my mind, I understand that, but in my heart I wonder…

 

discount circus tix and more

As-Salaamu-Alaikum (peace be with you)

al-Hamdulilah! (Thanks and praise to God) I found this discount code while looking for discounts for Ringling Bros Barnum and Bailey circus and it worked at ticket master. There were three codes listed for the circus they were “zxa”, “fun” and “circus”. I used the “zxa” code and reduced the price of floor seat matinee tix from $20 to 16.00!!! We are going on a Thursday at 10:30 am (YIKES) but GREAT PRICE.

For those keeping up with my summer clothes woes, (see previous entries), I found www.eshakti.com, I was really impressed with their selection of tunics. But what impressed me most is that every item is customizable so you can make the short sleeves long, the low cut shirt into a scoop neck and the hip length top longer to thigh length. The only drawback is you can’t change the color or material pattern but with so many colors to choose from you will surely find at least one item worth customizing. Average price was $34.00

what does your toddler eat?

My four year old only wants to eat noodles.  My two year old only wants “mommy milk” (see previous post).  During this weaning process with my son I can convince him to eat one small meal a day.  A good day will yield two small meals and that is it!  By small meals I mean half a bowl of noodles and some yogurt.

I am so jealous of mom’s whose kids eat heartily.  I asked one mother how she accomplished plate cleaning and she proudly announced that she sits at the table with a belt and they get spanked for not eating.  This eerily reminded me of the “soup Nazi” character from Seinfield and I was afraid.  I don’t want to force the food down their throats but short of that I don’t know what to do.

I understand the new Jessica Seinfield and others craze about hiding and disguising nutritious foods in with their favorite treats.  But this will not work for my four year old who has the most sophisticated palate of any person I have ever met.  She can detect the slightest alteration in her noodles and rejects any version other than the original.

Al Hamdulilah (Praise be to God) right now they seem to be healthy and developing naturally.  The doctor has advised that I don’t worry about it.  This is a stage that they will grow out of but still I worry.  It just doesn’t seem right that she should go to bed at night and all she has eaten for the day is two or three bowls of noodles.  I wonder what the experiences of other parents are?  Did your child eat and how did you encourage it, (in a productive healthy way) when she didn’t?

Gas prices out of control!

I recently filled up my mommy-mobile.  (A 2000 Caravan)  Average price of a fill up for the mommy-mobile these days is $55.00.  Al Hamdulilah (Thanks be to God)  I’m a stay at home mom and a fill-up will last me a couple of weeks.  But my goodness, what about all of the other people who are just struggling to survive!  If you are like a lot of Americans and live paycheck to paycheck then the seemingly non-stop rise in gas prices and the corresponding rise in food prices are probably killing you!  As a former social worker I know that the minimum food stamp allotment per month is $10.00.  In frustration people who are given this small amount, usually ask, “what can I buy with $10.00?”  I used to answer, patiently, “with ten dollars you can at least get your milk, eggs, bread and cheese.”    Today you could not even purchase these four items.

I know this is a direct result of this foolish and unnecessary war.  I support the idea of “National Security“.  However, I realize that as jobs, decrease and unemployment and poverty increase our internal national security is at stake.  The rise in poverty, homelessness, and uncertainty are ills that increase crime and drug abuse.  (Already the rise in mortgage foreclosures has brought an increase in arson related house fires.)

I’m concerned that as a nation we are spending BILLIONS each year on this war and our international policies while decreasing monies spent on our schools, our children, OUR POOR.  I see no end in sight to this vicious cycle.

As moms we are going to have to pull together.  (Especially during this election year.)  We are going to have to make our voices heard, so that Washington, and the new president knows, that record profits for oil companies while many Americans can barely get to work is unacceptable.  We will have to insist that using our tax dollars to rebuild schools in Iraq cannot take precedent over rebuilding schools in the U.S.  Don’t misunderstand, I do feel that we have an obligation to rebuild these schools especially since our bombing destroyed much of their infrastructure in the first place.  But we could do both if we weren’t spending billions to send more troops overseas to police people who don’t want us to police them!

As moms we are also going to have to pool our collective resources to help each other.  The internet is an excellent tool to find and share info.  When you find a product or company that is working to help Americans during this difficult time let’s support that company and spread the word.  I have been using http://www.gasbuddy.com  to find low price gas in my area.  I find this service to be relatively accurate and if we continue to feed them good info then we can be a part of the solution.

Summer clothes for my daughter

As-Salaamu-Alaikum, (Peace be with you)

I find that I am also experiencing the same difficulty (see previous post) finding modest clothes for my daughter. Although she is only four and doesn’t have the same modesty requirements as I do… I find the “daisy duke” shorts they were selling for her age group to be completely inappropriate! Everyday we hear more stories of little girls being molested and raped. Yet we allow, encourage and accept as cute, the sexualization of girls through their clothes. In my daughters size I found, “daisy dukes”, halters, bare midriff shirts and low-rise pants. Low risers on a four year old!!! What does a four year old need with low-risers?!! Mini skirt after mini skirt with no shorts sewn in. We all know that at four, they would need help keeping their legs clothes and not exposing their underwear so who would purchase or even make such items for such young girls?

SubhanAllah! Why do we allow such things. I would say we should not financially support stores that sell such items but then there would be no where left to shop because they basically all do. But at least when you see a modest item at a reasonable price, please purchase it. It will send the message to the store owners that this is what mothers are looking for. And spread the word when you hear of a store or a designer that offers modest clothes, so that we can all support them. We also need to request that our Muslim stores carry more items for children. Because although they are not required to dress modestly we should at least begin encouraging it as young as possible.