As Salaamu Alaikum Everybody,
I’m back from my long hiatus. During my break my family has changed dramatically. I am now the divorced Muslim mom of THREE! Al Hamdulilah my family grew by one. I now have a beautiful baby girl. As before I am bringing you along on the beautiful adventure in Muslim parenting. With all of its’ highs, lows and in betweens. I have questions for you and some of the answers that I have found myself. I am still dealing with trying to find modest mommy clothes, stay away from spanking, encouraging healthy eating habbits, and keeping my sanity. All of this, while raising a daughter who is learning to read and trying to be the mommy herself, to her younger siblings. Also while raising a little boy who doesn’t understand what no means, never met a bed he didn’t want to jump on, a couch he didn’t want to climb over and jump off of or a door he didn’t want to burst through. If you are a mom, you know exactly what I am talking about. If you are not a mom…WELCOME TO MY WORLD!
Feel free to comment often. NOT because I need the posts but because I NEED ADULT CONVERSATION. 🙂
Today was not a great day. Nothing is working out the way I had hoped for my business and it looks like an investment I made is going to lose money. Money that I can’t afford to lose at this time. I allowed myself to feel a little down for a moment and then I had to straighten myself back up and get over it.
As a Muslim I feel it shows a lack of faith to wallow in self-pity! To feel it for a moment is human. But to wallow is disbelief. Because I have to believe that Allah is constantly blessing me and enriching my life in ways I see and in ways I don’t. For that I am grateful. I am thankful that Allah is my protector, my Wali, and that He is Ar-Rahman. So the business I thought was so great was not but that doesn’t mean that Allah will not bless me with a great business. Instead it means I have to step back, learn what Allah wanted to teach me with this lesson and apply it to the next opportunity that will surely come. Because Allah’s words are ALWAYS true. AFTER THE DIFFICULTY COMES THE EASE! I only hope I can imprint this grateful resilience into the hearts of my children. InshaAllah
As-Salaamu-Alaikum, One of the reasons why I started this blog was to record our MashaAllah moments. The moments with the kids that make it all worthwhile. I feel so blessed to have been given this special opportunity by Allah (God). And it slips by so fast. You blink and it is gone.
I can’t believe that my oldest is going to be 4 in two weeks and my baby is already 2!!! Where did the time go? Things I said I would never forget are already fading as they are replaced my new memories I say I’ll never forget. The first time I held Saffiyah in the hospital. Her first real smile, the first time she called me mommy. The first time she met me at the window when I returned from work. She told me recently, “I love you mommy, you the best mommy in the whole world!” Said with such enthusiasm and sincerity that I hope I never forget. Even when she inevitably does…
Ali, came to me one day, he came running to me in the kitchen and said Mama – I love you! And then he ran away. This was so sweet because he was just learning to talk and I would kiss him and say “I love you, Ali.” then I would wait and say “You love mommy, say I love you mommy” but he never would. This continued for about two weeks then suddenly one day there it was. He ran as if he suddenly realized what it meant and he just had to tell me! MashaAllah these are the moments that make motherhood possible
I can’t tell you the joy I feel at being a mommy. I came to motherhood late in life so for me I felt doubly blessed. (Al-Hamdulillah -Praise be to God) Just a couple of years before my daughter was born I was advised by several doctors to have a complete hysterectomy and was told in no uncertain terms that I was too old, and because of medical problems too unhealthy to ever carry a baby to term. (I will explain more about this later – in a special series I will title “flashbacks-) But I put my faith in Allah (God) and two years later my daughter was born, healthy, naturally and with no problems. And all the praise goes to Allah, who I know makes ALL THINGS POSSIBLE.
Possible but not always easy:) It has been a humbling,thrilling, funny, frustrating, touching, crazy, wondrous, fulfilling, exasperating, learning experience that I can’t believe I am still just in the beginning stages of completing. Wait, did I say complete?! No way, it will never be complete…I’ll always be mommy. Just as my mom is, this experience has made me value and appreciate her and all mothers so much. So I’m starting this blog to share this wonderful journey and also to meet others on the same path. Share with you, learn from you, and hopefully we can help each other to raise children who will please Allah, contribute to this Ummah (Muslim community) and to all of society as well. May Allah bless with the tawfiq (ability to do a job well) to be good Muslim Mommies!